Stranger 33, Day 33 – Meet Jarvis, the “Humble”

Stranger 33, Day 33 - Meet Jarvis

I met today’s Stranger just out of the blue as he was working on his laptop. He had earbuds in and connected to his phone. He had been on the phone off and on from what I noticed on the patio of Starbucks. It was clear he was making several business calls, so I was curious if not only would he talk to me, but would he devote time to share with me his story knowing he likely had several more calls to make.

Turns out, the Stranger was quite open and friendly. He was skeptical about the picture at first, but as I continued to share why I started on this project, he totally got it, and was happy to talk.

Meet Jarvis, 31

Who are you?

Jarvis laughs.

“31. 10-year-old daughter. I’m a merchandising manager for Dr. Pepper. Been doing that for a while. True passions are eating healthy, working out, or racing. That’s one of the biggest things. I love sports. Just giving back. If I’m ever in position to where I can help somebody, then I try my best to. I’ve been able to bless people with jobs. Help them in financial situations. Whenever I can try to mentor somebody or give them education, I do my best to do that. That’s pretty much my everyday scheme. I manage over 60-something people. That’s on a daily basis, so that’s my life right now. Just trying to raise my little girl in this crazy world.”

I mentioned to Jarvis about Ed, Stranger 26. Jarvis found Ed’s Cannonball record run very interesting. These serendipitous Stranger connections.

Jarvis mentions how he’s “always wanted to race the Le Mans.” In fact, that’s what he wants to do in life. He’s also a big fan of Ferraris. Who isn’t? Ha

So you touched on your passions. What are your dreams?

“I want to design and have my own car. I would want to come out with my own car.”

Jarvis shares his interest in Tesla. “If I could take what they have, and take what Ferrari have, I would probably put those two together, and create my own thing. I know eventually, we’re going to run out of our own natural resources. We have 20, 30 years from now… we’ll have to move to another direction. They’re already there with the types of cars they have. Right now, I like antique stuff, too. Right now, I have a 1980 Trans Am that I’m bringing back to life. Going to fully restore it. It’s like taking ‘one man’s trash, is another man’s treasure’. There’s always something in something.”

“If I could have a dream, that’d be it — I’d love to have my own car. I’d probably freak out.” Jarvis laughs.

“If I could just travel and race!”

You love to give back. You love mentoring. And you have a 10-year-old daughter. What are some of the life lessons you’ve learned along the way, that you advise and impart on others?

“I think the biggest thing is that we’re very, very outspoken. But at the same time, I think we need to fall back to listening, too. Like one advice… even if it’s something you know, there are more than one way to learn something — ‘more than one way to skin a cat’. The biggest thing I tell people is to just be patient. For everything you’re itching for, you’re wanting to do… it’s gonna come. Keep that ambition, and keep fighting. No matter how many obstacles get thrown at you. No matter how many hurdles. It’s just preparing you to enjoy what you’re wanting to do at the end of the road… even better. You’re going to have more of a high passion. You’ll be so much more humble for it.”

“You might have made that quick million, but two years later, he’s like, ‘wow, he had 2 million dollars and now he’s broke!’ Those are people who had time to think about it. He either had the money, and I wouldn’t even say that he went broke.” Jarvis explains how people learn from mistakes, like over-spending, and how through humbling experiences do people recognize the value of holding onto what you have and being smarter.

“If anything, just be humble. Remain humble, and passionate about what you want. If you really want it, you’re going to get it.”

You have a daughter. You’re mentoring younger individuals. You also manage 60-plus people. What are some of the lessons you’ve learned to effectively manage/ help/ raise these individuals?

“I think the biggest thing is to have sat on that high horse, and have fell off at the same time. I was at another company in another position. Good money. Everything seemed to be going good. Moving fast. Not caring about anything. Not saving a dime. Blowing it, having fun, going out and getting drunk… it seemed like what to do at the time. But after awhile, it was just taken. You look up, and ‘why did I do this? why did I do that?’ You can ask yourself so many questions why, but at the same time, there’s a learning lesson. After you go through the whys, you can see why that happened. I’m kind of glad. It goes back… it made me more passionate. It made me more humble.”

“It goes back to my situation… growing up, my mom had me at 15. So I had to learn fast, and it matured me. I wouldn’t want to see that same thing go on with my daughter. Hopefully she doesn’t have a child at a young age. Hopefully, she goes through the right process — get married, fall in love, have that career, and be able to take care of her kids, and provide for them. It’s just about the whole experience that I’ve dealt with, and that I constantly tell her — ‘slow down, make sure you get a good education. Make sure you’re doing something that your heart’s really in that can drive your passion, and you can really get to where you want to be because if you’re doing something that you love, you’ll make money’. I definitely believe happiness is the key thing. Money isn’t everything. It just helps us get to where we need to go. It makes things easier. I’m use money.”

Jarvis explains how he doesn’t necessarily spend money, as much as he uses money — as an investment.

What did yesterday teach you?

“Wow… wow…” Jarvis laughs, and thinks.

“Yesterday probably taught me to be better prepared for tomorrow. I would say, for instance, if I had $10 today, I’ll only spend $5 today, so I’ll have $5 tomorrow. I won’t spend the whole $10!”

“That’d probably be the biggest thing — just being better prepared for tomorrow.”

Jarvis goes onto explaining how he would effectively split his resources today to invest in tomorrow, and “just be better prepared for life.”

What would you like to ask tomorrow’s Stranger?

“To be honest, and it might seem a little weird, but just networking.” I was curious what he meant, and Jarvis talked about how he’s lived here his whole life, but he still doesn’t know many of the buildings around him. Similarly, he wants to be able expand his network to “gain better opportunities” and “bridge points to other points”.

I asked him how would he put this into a question. He responded, “how do I get your job?”

Jarvis explains that the reason behind the question is to know how the Stranger prepared him/ herself and networked or interviewed or just came across the opportunity to which the Stranger now works at.

After the handshake.

I thought Jarvis might actually turn me down after initially rebuffing the picture part of the project. However, just like this meet went, he opened up more and more as we went along. It was clear early on that some of his story around mentoring and giving back was rooted in some earlier event — being raised by a young mother. Through that experience and through the “high horse” experience, Jarvis has come out more humble as well as more opportunistic. He sees opportunities, weighs what he has today, and finds ways to continue to grow… more specifically grow professionally. He also seemed like he wanted to set a good example for his daughter by finding opportunities and continuing to grind to always improve.

Happy to Jarvis opened up for this opportunity to meet, and it was nice to share with him Ed’s story as the Cannonball Race’s World Record holder.

Meet Jarvis. No longer a Stranger.

4 replies
  1. Sylvester Evans
    Sylvester Evans says:

    I love this concept. I can’t even think of all the people I have met on this beautiful planet so many. I just so proud and glad to read this wonderful article with my nephew Jarvis and his genuine gifts and talents. I wished they can bring this idea to Kuwait.

  2. Inga
    Inga says:

    That’s what’s up Jarvis. That was a fabulous article. It brought out the true essence of who you are, where you’ve been and of course where you want to go. Keep taking care of baby bit. And you do it big baby!


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